Imagine you’ve been given a garden.

It’s you’re garden, and your responsible for its care.  You decide what grows in it.  You decide what it looks like.  And you get to partake of the fruit that comes from it.

Like any garden, it’s gonna be prone to sprout weeds.  Undesirable seeds will occasionally be blown in, and you won’t know it until they sprout.  But you get to decide how long those weeds stay.  How tall they get.

But be careful, because left untended, weeds have a way of taking over.

In fact, it’s often the case that after prolonged neglect, we look at our garden and see nothing but weeds.

In these times, it’s easy to curse the garden we’ve been given.

It’s also easy to look at the weeds in our garden, and think that it’s too late, or that this is how it was meant to be, and that there’s nothing we can do about it, at least not now.

When you look at your garden and see only weeds, it’s hard to forget that it’s still a garden.  The weeds do not define it.  They are merely the visible evidence of what you’ve allowed to grow there.

If you don’t like it, change it.  It’s your garden.

Now reread this, and substitute “garden” for “LIFE”. What resonates with you?


Life is like a garden, it's yours to change

(image from **Mary**)

If you’re talking about your own life, control is what matters. Self control, or self-discipline, is fundamental to your ability to succeed in anything.

But if you’re talking about the life or lives of others, control is an illusion; influence is what matters.

Whether it’s with your kids, your employees, your peers, or even your boss, the more you seek to exert control (or expand the level of your control), the less you’ll actually have.

Why? Because free agency is an inalienable right. The more you seek to contain it, the less successful you’ll be

Those who don’t understand this (e.g. new parents, new managers, or tyrants), attempt to accomplish their dreams and vision through control. They inevitably find themselves unsuccessful (or fired, or dead).

But those who understand that control is not really theirs to have (e.g. experienced parents, managers, or leaders), seek rather to shape the course of events through influence, find themselves far more successful at accomplishing their objectives, and far less negatively affected when they don’t.

It’s ironic really. The more you seek control, the less of it you have. The more you give up control, and seek only to influence, the more of it you experience.